The problem with irrational thoughts, is when you’re having them, they seem perfectly rational.
When bearing the weight of addiction, discouragement, the pain of loss, or the struggle with self-image after years of emotional abuse or deep wounds of childhood trauma or neglect; every person who is battling their demons has the same basic thoughts:
That they are alone.
That no one understands or that they don't want others to be bothered with the burden of their issues,
And that they have very few options.
Along with these thoughts come the overwhelming pain of loneliness, and then the desperately wanting the feelings to stop. Some succeed in making those feelings stop while others suffer silently, living seemingly normal lives.
Or living a somewhat secretive, self-harming life.
Until you’ve sludged through these thoughts. Its easy to make quick judgments about other people without knowing what they’re going through just to get through the day.
They suffer trying to not listen to what their disease is telling them- giving in to self depreciating thoughts that have ingrained themselves into their precious brain..🤯
You may not have time to help them or be a life-changer counselor but you could be the turning point of their day that gives them one sliver of light.
A spark of hope. Even showing a morsel of care.
- By NOT adding to their irrational thoughts of being unlovable, or broken, or otherwise not worthy of your care or your time.
- Setting healthy boundaries that empower them to do the same.
- Practicing the pause of making quick judgements or assumptions.
Basically by not being another brick in their wall of self defeat.
We can bridge the gap between chaos and distress.
We can be the tunnel to their freedom – escaping from the turmoil to see the light of a new day.
This is how we show a suffering human how to climb out of darkness. By being the light. By showing how healthy people communicate and solve problems.
May we all find our place of peace. There is beauty after pain, if even for a moment. Those moments added together , gives us purpose for our own lives.