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Running Toward Pleasure

The phrase spoken in Netflix’s new “Painkiller”: “All of human behavior is essentially comprised of two things: running away from pain and toward pleasure…….its a

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Spilled Granola

The sun was beating down on my rented black Nissan Ultima as I pulled into the gas station. The temperature was going to reach a

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Self-Care Day

Although I don’t have a giant round window, sparkling chandelier, or even a free-standing tub; I do have a small quiet condo in the suburbs

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Addicted to Drama

I read somewhere that we get a dopamine burst even in times of worry and pain. I thought, “How can this be? I thought dopamine

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Self-Care Day

Although I don’t have a giant round window, sparkling chandelier, or even a free-standing tub; I do have a small quiet condo in the suburbs

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365 Days

As I watched the black swirly water from my home box of hair coloring make its way down the slowly backing-up drain; I thought of

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The Christmas Letter

Remember The Christmas Letter? We’ve all received them, folded  & tucked inside the ever- dwindling colorful Christmas cards.” It was the one time that parents

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Falling To Grace

As my son’s life spins more out of control, I feel myself spinning too. Falling away from him. Away from having to defend him. Away

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Vulnerability

Sucks. It really does. Because that’s usually how we get hurt or offended or disappointed. We finally get enough courage to open up and expose

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Quiet Suffering

I heard the squeak and the roar of the Monday morning trash pickup as it crept through the neighborhood. It was always a loud wake

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Scapegoating in Addiction

I’m not a therapist and I am NOT making excuses for the adverse and defiant behavior that typically manifests in addiction. What I have noticed

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Kindness

I wish I could say I was the epitome of kindness. I wish I was the one who does things automatically because I’m a good

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Congruency

Why there are ALWAYS. Three sides to every story. We all know that addiction brings out the huge parking lot of pain, disappointment, agony, despair,

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Against A Crooked Sky

As I drove through the windy canyon, the familiar rolling hills of my hometown gave way to the rows of turkey coops dotting the fields.

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The Lure of the Chicken

Admit it. You’ve done it. You’ve bought the chicken. You were minding your business, heading straight for the veggie section and there it was. The

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Not My Child

Overdose Awareness Day For all those who see all the purple banners today representing overdose awareness day and you scroll on by thinking: “I’m glad

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