Do you ever wonder why you are going through a certain situation, and think “Why me?” Or “What did I do to deserve this?”
I think we all have when going through challenging times.
What if, we took a moment to pause and breathe. What if we explore the idea that maybe you really are chosen for this! Maybe it’s exactly what you and HE decided was needed for your growth and ‘character development’ on earth. If you don’t believe in a pre-mortal existence and still think you might be being punished, I ask you in true Dr Phil style, “How’s that working for you? Is it helpful? Maybe, we were the only ones who volunteered. Maybe we were the only gutsy ones who dared take it on…
You are being the example to someone else who’s watching how you handle these stressful times. I’m not saying to hide your feelings in denial and suffer in silence. I’m saying to be real, be you, be raw. Those who can’t handle it – won’t. Those who will be moved by your real-ness, your authenticity, and your ability to move…. Through the pain…will be inspiring.
Keep searching, seeking. Keep finding the light, the good things that rise from the darkness. Here’s a few articles that came to me literally as I was thinking about this post.
Allyson Rowe Shaffer via fb.
“Don’t feel sorry for or fear for your kids because the world they are going to grow up in is not what it used to be.
God created them and called them for the exact moment in time that they’re in. Their life wasn’t a coincidence or an accident.
Raise them up to know the power they walk in as children of God.
Train them up in the authority of His Word.
Teach them to walk in faith knowing that God is in control.
Empower them to know they can change the world.
Don’t teach them to be fearful and disheartened by the state of the world but hopeful that they can do something about it.
Every person in all of history has been placed in the time that they were in because of God’s sovereign plan.
He knew Daniel could handle the lions den.
He knew David could handle Goliath.
He knew Esther could handle Haman.
He knew Peter could handle persecution.
He knows that your child can handle whatever challenge they face in their life. He created them specifically for it!
Don’t be scared for your children, but be honored that God chose YOU to parent the generation that is facing the biggest challenges of our lifetime.
Rise up to the challenge.
Raise Daniels, Davids, Esthers and Peters!
God isn’t scratching His head wondering what He’s going to do with this mess of a world.
He has an army He’s raising up to drive back the darkness and make Him known all over the earth.
Don’t let your fear steal the greatness God placed in them. I know it’s hard to imagine them as anything besides our sweet little babies, and we just want to protect them from anything that could ever be hard on them, but they were born for such a time as this.” -Alex Cravens
📷 : Michel Maza
“ I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time, so that you don’t take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck again, from time to time, so that you will be conscious of the roll of chance in life, and understand that your success is not completely deserved, and the failure of others is not completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you will be ignored, so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion.”
Chief Justice John Roberts sons 9th grade graduation 2017
The Key To Teens Is…Let Them Struggle
It’s OKAY for our kids to struggle sometimes.
Or feel bored or sad or lonely or hurt.
And it’s okay if they are left out at school or don’t make the grade or aren’t the best on the team.
Because I’m guessing one day when our kids grow up, they’ll have moments when they struggle.
There will come a day when they won’t land the job. Or they can’t get the date. Or they’ll be faced with one of life’s true tragedies.
We can be certain one day our kids will have their fair share of pain because life is FULL of pain, isn’t it??
No one is immune.
So, if we prevent every fall NOW…
If we cushion every blow NOW…
If we arrange all the pieces just so NOW…
Won’t our kids be shocked one day by life’s inevitable pain???
And I know, I KNOW it hurts.
As moms we want nothing more than to see our kids succeed and be happy. We long for our babies to achieve their dreams and find their purpose. And it feels like when they fall or fail…WE have failed.
But that simply isn’t true.
When we allow our kids to struggle sometimes, we are giving them a gift…
The gift of RESILIENCE.
We cheer for them. We provide all the tools. We give support and offer help. We keep them safe. We pray for them. We hold them when they fall.
But we can’t fix up a Perfect Little Life for them.
We HAVE to let them struggle. And allow them to find their own way through.
So rather than perfect top-of-the-class kids…
Or superstar best-on-the-team kids…
Or popular always-fit-in kids…
Or never faltered-or-failed kids…
Let’s strive to raise RESILIENT kids!!
Kids who know exactly what to do when life shoves them to the ground.
Kids who aren’t afraid to try…and fail.
Kids who understand no matter what happens, they’ve got what it takes to stand back up and try again.
And kids who KNOW their mom is cheering for them every step of the way!
Come on moms!!!
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