I had such a RaDICaL breakthrough today that I had to share.
Yesterday I had a coworker spend an hour telling me how wrong I was & how I needed to do something better… for HER & how irrational I was & why her way was right.
I remained calm trying to approach the problem from several different angles.
Until finally, she blurted out:
“Well, I’ve already talked to the boss & he wants it done this way……”
I went home feeling completely undermined, sideswiped-whatever you want to call it.
I was determined to go to the boss armed with data to show how she was just being a bully in order to be right and how if only he had my opinion, then he would surely side with me.
Then, I listened to this 4 minutes of calmness from my favorite (and only) spiritual guru- Matt Kahn.
This guy doesn’t resonate with everyone, but he’s my ‘thing’ that saved my heart a few years ago after a breakup of 3 years. Ever since, he has helped me dig deeper to find out who I am and who I want to be.
“This is HOW PEOPLE GIVE US BACK our POWER- by disappointing the HELL outta us….”-Matt Kahn
Think about it. If life is going my way, I can love myself just fine, but the minute adversity hits me in the gut, I’m going to walk around blaming someone else. THEY are going to pay for my inconvenience, my pain and suffering.
I’m ready and willing to blame anyone but myself- for triggering me. I mean, I was just here minding my own business! I didn’t start it! (Like a 5-year-old would say).
As I chose to ruminate on it; I started thinking, “I’ll just quit. I can’t stand her anyway”.
Then a voice said:
“ᗷᑌT TᕼEᖇE’S OTᕼEᖇS ᒪIKE ᕼEᖇ EᐯEᖇYᗯᕼEᖇE….”
In my past relationships, if a guy isn’t doing what I think he should be saying or doing, what do I do? Speak my peace or speak my piece? What happens if I do the latter? Collusion. He’s not going to change. I will keep attracting men who will collude with my ideas until I make peace with myself.
Another variant to this is:
If we aren’t giving ourselves the acceptance & love we need, we are more likely to seek out drugs or sex or power or people who trigger us- (Which will ALWAYS disappoint us again & again).
These experiences are for our benefit, in order to bring us back to ourselves.
If we never experience disappointment, sorrow and loss; then we never get the opportunity to grow into a better version of ourselves.
It’s so simple.
I never fully caught on to the love yourself movement until I heard this from Matt Kahn.
Adversity doesn’t stop when we move to a different place or switch partners or jobs. Things will still smack us right dab in the face until we become aligned enough. Alligned with ourselves or with the universe or our God or Higher Power.
This helps us essentially become bulletproof to letting these traumas and dramas knock us around so much.
Some may call it the Armour of God. Others may say Self-confidence, Self- worth.
Take a listen.