As I’m trying my hand at writing with this blog site AND starting my first book, I really needed to strengthen my armor and battle my extra sensitive innerds to withstand future haters. So I was thrilled to read a fellow bloggers advice.
I came across THIS article on internet criticism.
In it they state to “Accept that someone else’s opinion is NOT your problem.”
Duh. I mean in theory it’s true. Why DO we care what Jim Bob from timbuck2 says?
Why does it seem like a direct hit to our gut. Is this all stemming from the era of ‘value everyone’s opinion–because everyone has a voice’ lessons in debate class?
The trouble with modern internet “debates” is they’re NOT debates. They’re arguments. So that in itself should show us that when someone criticizes US or our work, we should take it with a grain of salt- as my Mama used to say.
Speaking of my Mama; They also quote in the article, one of my favorite childhood comedians:
“Carol Burnett once said:
Words, once they are printed, have a life of their own.”
Yup and you can never take them back thanks to screenshots and clouds.
Of course we’ve all saw the damage for ourselves. Arguments that quickly turn to name calling and making fun of someone’s profile picture as “verification” of “no wonder you’re an idiot”. Really? Are we in kindergarten?
All this negative energy and bad vibes doesn’t just harm our health, has a ripple effect too. When we get angry online do we immediately “let it go” & decompress or do we stew about it, take it out on our families, then get back on the thread and defend ourselves some more?
What wasted energy. I’ve always said that the person is judging you for your ONE SENTENCE out of 550 million sentences in your life. So then why so we give credence to their opinion??
It’s ludicrous on our part.
Yet we still get drawn in to the “debates”.
In years past, there were relatively few things debatable. I mean you could argue your theory on anything but EVERYTHING WASN’T POLITICIZED either.
As I stated in this THIS article a few weeks ago, every family, friend, and coworker seems to need to Draw a line in the sand and risk the unraveling of relationships with family and coworkers.
Wtf really matters?
Opinions don’t equal facts. No matter how you spin it because today’s facts can be twisted- says I. In another opinion article. ( Cause MY opinion MATTERS 🙂)
Anyway, you get the drift.
If we wasn’t somehow dependant on “followers” or job reviews to maintain our lifestyle, I suspect we could ƇƛƦЄ ԼЄƧƧ.
But meanwhile… We need a balance of “caring about people just not what they think”
Which leads me to another great article about what people think -written by someone with a great Opinion…🤷♂️
Please check out This advise too.
VERY timely needed. (Just my opinion- lol)