At my job, we teach staying in the present as a coping skill.
The last few weeks and months seem to have a lot of minds busy with turbulence & unrest…
One of the things I’ve learned most about helping people in duress is to bring them back to the moment.
“Grounding” is the new term.
Since most or at least some forms of anxiety usually come from thinking about too many scenarios that may happen or problems you are having and feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to slow down those thoughts & ground yourself to the moment.
One great strategy I’ve found is to say:
“We don’t have to fix this all right now”.
“What is your body telling you that you need at this moment? “
Recently I was looking in my old journals and I found in one of my notebook ramblings from 2006- long before all my current job training-which had MY SIMPLE TRUTHS written at the top:
#1: I don’t have to fix everything right now
I think we instinctively know what we need at any given moment ….it’s just breaking down the barriers to reach that wisdom. Being quiet enough with our egos & fears & insecurities to allow peace in.
Which is really the whole premise to meditation.
I haven’t mastered meditation or even stuck with it long enough to master it, but yesterday I found Joe Dispenza’s motivational videos and I just might start again.
As a life longer “self improvement obsessive-er ( because I can’t say junkie) I never really stop looking for life hacks. But along the way of doing this, we can still get lost in the ” fixing”.
Whether it be fixing ourselves or someone else, or just a situation in crisis; There are moments in your life when you come to a crossroads and realize that you are losing yourself in the process.
Mine was seeing a picture pop up in memories from three years ago. I saw a vibrant, white teeth, soft, freshly colored – gray hair covered-styled hair, person who’s biggest problem seemed to be to make it on time to dance class at age 49.
Now, having fun seems so far away from my mental health after being in survival mode for so long.
I’ve heard that desperation and pain are great motivators for change. For me, seeing a picture of myself caused me great distress in my need to change.
So, just for today, I will tell myself:
Yoυ don’т need тo ғιх everyтнιng rιgнт now, or тoday, or even тoмorrow
Then ask my body, what is it you need right now?
Today, mine is saying freedom from this excess weight that has been used as a cushion to comfort me in times of great stress.