“Because of Covid”
How many times a day do we hear “Because of Covid?”
I’ve never wanted to die. But because of Covid, I sometimes do.
No, I don’t have Covid. Nor do I want it. No, I don’t think it’s a fake virus. I think it’s a virus.
A relatively unknown virus. That kills.
Almost everywhere, a million times a day you hear “Because of Covid.”
It seems to be a “reason” for ANY thing that can’t be done due to covid, no matter how trivial; even things which don’t seem to correlate “with Covid”.
Confusing statement? Exactly. Proves my point.
What makes me sad, and angry & shocked, is the power this virus seems to have. It’s like a cancer eating away at everyone’s sense of judgement for freedoms and even affects their relationship with their families, who may disagree.
The seemingly invisible ability to destroy families, businesses, traditions, values, vacations, jobs, housing, decency, human nature, bonds, and holidays feels eerily familiar.
See, there’s another Pandemic that doesn’t get near the attention because of a preconceived judgement that certain humans aren’t worthy of basic needs.
I care about covid, I do. But the lack of attention and empathy for the ongoing opiod epidemic that came crashing into my life two years ago, has me rattled.
I mean, we could compare the two death rates and all, but it would always end with the same statement: “Well, addiction is not contagious, addicts knew the risk, they’re not innocent, they brought this onto theirselves”
Another painful jab to a mother’s hurting heart.
So pain is now judgementized?( I’m aware this may not be a real word- but it fits)
I thought pain was pain. Suffering is suffering.
I was taught as a nurse that pain is what ever the PATIENT said it was….. Not what pain YOU think they have. ( Thanks to studies sponsored by Purdue—which helped contribute to this epidemic in the first place)
How come AIDS was a valid disease even though it usually resulted from a person’s choice? (With no push from drs and pharmaceutical companies that it was ‘harmless’).
So are WE playing God by deciding who’s worthy of treatment or sympathy?
It’s an honest question.
“No we’re not playing God, it’s just that addiction will always be around, this virus NEEDS our attention NOW.”
Do you know what else needs attention? An innocent little kid who needs her daddy back. What else? A man who has lost every single thing he worked for 15 years to get and now he shaking miserably in the bathroom of a speedway not knowing where to get his next fix so he’ll stop vomiting. A mom, who night after night, cries herself to sleep wondering where she went wrong. A mom who begs a God she never quite believed in before, to please save her son.
Maybe that’s all I want. Is sympathy.
I get it.
I haven’t lost anyone to Covid. Close, but not quite.
But I guess I kindof resent the fact that those who have lost relatives to covid are getting the mass media coverage like crazy. Softly dramatized stories about how much their relative suffered in the hospital and the heroes who took care of them.
Let me be clear. I’m not downplaying anyone’s experience. I’m just saying that if their loved one was suffering with a substance abuse disorder, they probly would not be used as a ‘ story’ in order to further the need for a certain point to be made, such as mask wearing or any other pubic service campaign to persuade people to take it “more seriously”.
“We” (mamma’s of addicts) ARE taking it seriously. Like you, every aspect of our lives has changed, how could we not?
But we have been masking up for years. Hiding behind the stigma of Addiction. “We” can now see some of the hidden agendas that are being indirectly and sometimes directly played to families suffering with their grief.
This is done by using that pain as a “message” by having it come from the tear- stained face of a family member pleading with people to Pleeease care!
Do your part!!
“DO YOUR PART! DON’T BE SELFISH”
As they drive by the homeless person in their shiny car.
Look, I KNOW it’s human nature to have a CAUSE or a tribe to further the need of place our pain and blame onto someone or something else when we feel out of control. I mean, you could say I’m doing it now.
I could mention that I’ve been in “isolation” for years with my own mask. Covering up and quarantining our family secret of this addiction.
It’s one of those things normal people don’t understand.
But I attest to you, the pain of this other pandemic, is real. The fear of the unknown Is real. The dread of receiving “the call” is on my mind every single day.
When I see how far people have jumped and caved and twisted and turned for this virus, Yes, I’m jealous. I’ve written letter after letter asking for assistance with the nightmare journey of addiction. Famous people, entertainers, influencers, politicians, netflix documentary lawyers. I rarely get a response.
What did I want them to do? I don’t know. Whisk him away to the indies for a swanky rehab I guess. Who knows? I just want the pain to stop. Mostly for him. But that requires money.
The money thrown at this new powerful virus is hard to watch. 1-2 million for billboards for masks?
I’ve resigned to the fact that “because of Covid,” No one can really help. Especially when people are in constant chaos about the state of the world and the safety and future of themselves and their families. So I trudge through each day on a wing and a prayer. ?
Praying that “Because of Covid”, or AFTER covid, some miracle may happen to bring my son back to life.
Life before Covid.
Life before addiction.
I just hope that AFTER covid , it won’t be too late.
2 thoughts on ““Because of Covid””
Samantha Waters, what a beautifully written heartbreaking summation of the tragedy right in front of our faces. I have lived through the nightmare of two brothers’ suicides a year apart. I have also been a mother waiting for that phone call that never leaves your mind, not for one second.
No matter how much you think you have prepared for it, you never are.
Being turned away from rehabs because your loved one didn’t fit their criteria, were so expensive you had to sell your house or simply there was no bed and now Covid.
Here in the state of Utah the government spent over $2 million just for those trashy billboards along I-15 to tell us to mask up. Imagine what those funds could have done for suicide, drug addiction, or homelessness.
Heartbreaking indeed!-Diann Bowen