Those of you who know what this means probably have it yourself.
These are questions to ask yourself if you want to know if you have it.
- Have you ever been asked what’s wrong when nothing is wrong?
- Have you ever been told you look soooooo tired?
- Have you ever sat in the hairdressers chair and looked at that person in the mirror not even recognizing the face?
- Have you ever turned on your phone camera and saw a giant, sad, scary face staring back?
- How many times can you count the instances where someone asked what you were p’d off at?
Resting Bitch Face.
It’s a thing. Wikipedia even recognizes it saying it goes back to the King of France in 1654 who knew?
And WHO KNEW men, including Eminem could get it? Even Kings! Lol
When I wrote this article regarding how I like wearing masks due to covering up my emotions; I failed to mention the benefits of having my RBF hidden too.
As long as I can remember, I’ve been mistaken as grouchy. So the question comes up: which came first, the chicken or the egg?
Regardless, I spent my life as a peacemaker, always trying to get those around me to feel good or “differently”, which would eventually come back to haunt me.
I learned that it’s ok to feel anyway you want. Just like it’s ok to look anyway you want. If others have issues with it, I learned to slyly (and possibly passive aggressively), rebound the ball back to them.
When my co-worker asked me why I don’t talk more, I asked him how much talking would make him feel ok about me? He seemed taken aback.
So how much of a resting bitch face would I NOT NEED to make me popular? Most people would say it’s all in the first impressions. If you can pull off coming across as friendly instead of standoffish, that’s a plus.
So imagine my surprise when I found out there’s a cure. Vanessa Van Edwards gives the following suggestions in Her Article.
- When you are looking at someone, look up at them. This makes your eyes more open and less downcast.
- Use makeup to reshape your downcast eyes.
- Replace your neutral frown with a small smile. …
- Own it.
I tried for alot of years to replace my downturned mouth for a fake plastic one, but I just couldn’t maintain it. So I guess I’ll just have to own it.
Besides, there are worse things……